Monday, 19 December 2011
Sometimes there’s more competition that goes on outside the show ring than inside, don’t you think?
Horse owners at a boarding stable compare training methods and horse management practices, hoping to become the barn expert. Horse show “groupies” chit chat at ringside with their assessments of competitors, judges, and show management, but never seem to compete themselves, perhaps fearing that they’d be the objects of criticism. Trainers boast of their next winner. Name dropping, gossip and gloating over the trials and tribulations of others. From Discussion boards to Facebook, horse people love to compete!
One of the quickest ways to diffuse the flaming arrows of negative comments is to throw a positive arrow back. Responding to a gossip with a positive comment about the targeted person, or a possible explanation for their unfortunate situation can often stop the conversation. Folks who believe the best about others are the real winners!
Tuesday, 13 December 2011
It’s the misuse of imagination according to renowned motivational speaker and salesman Zig Ziglar.
“What if..?” keeps us up the night before a horse show or a presentation or a difficult telephone conversation.
A nagging worry is like dragging a weight around on the end of a rope. Wherever we go, it comes with us. The longer we drag it, the heavier it seems. We’re not free until we cut it loose by putting it in it’s proper perspective. When a situation is heavy on my mind, I lighten the load by remembering…
1. To control the things I can control and let go of the things I can’t. I can prepare my horse for challenging horse show situations. I can practice tougher things than I may be asked to do in a class. I can study for that judging exam and write down my main points before I teach. I can communicate expectations in a relationship rather than brooding that “they should know” and initiate asking forgiveness regardless of a person’s response.
2. To consider what would be the worst case scenario and whether I could live with the outcome. In most cases the result, although unpleasant, wouldn’t kill me. It might even make me wiser and stronger.
3. That half of what I’ve worried about hasn’t happened. So why let worry eat up the joy of today?
Anxiety never releases tomorrow of its problems. It only empties today of its strengths. Corrie Ten Boom, Holocaust concentration camp survivor.
Can all your worries add a single moment to your life? Jesus Christ (Matthew 6:27, The Bible)